To be “grounded in our truth” is to know our truth, speak our truth, and act on our truth. Sometimes it's not so easy to do. Take some pointers from the mighty sequoia to live wholly and fully out loud.
Ever feel like your stories are trying to kill you?
What’s your story? And can you change your story?
In my world, your story is the set of conditioned beliefs that you believe to be true. These are the beliefs that you inherited from countless generations before you, that you absorbed from your community, and took on from your peers. And actually, by the time you are hitting your stride in your mid-30s, your story is firmly in place. These conditioned beliefs are driving the bus, and your sweet, well-intentioned conscious mind is virtually powerless to override. Sometimes it can feel like the bus is awfully close to the cliff’s edge.
And if you are human, having a human experience, then I hate to break it to you, but most of your story is total BS, as are the beliefs that create your story. And your story might even be trying to kill you.
OK, maybe that’s a little extreme. Our stories aren’t really trying to kill us, are they?
We have so many thoughts each day, and a great many of them are really not helpful, now are they? It can be crazy making, I know.
But not just crazy making. In addition to bringing us way down, these stories can actually be damaging our health.
When we go down the Habit Hole, and get on the BS Belief Bus, we are sending powerful messages to our Central Nervous System. Messages that down-regulate our immune system, our digestive system, our circulatory system, all of it! And instead, it ramps up our “fight or flight” response, gives us a stress belly, and diminishes our ability to rest and repair.
And just because I help people fix their stories, heal the damage (physical, emotional, and psychological) the crappy ones have wrought, and move on to create powerful lives, it doesn’t mean that my own stories don’t creep up in my life. They do. All. The. Time.
Examples of stories (aka beliefs) that are out to get you:
Your friend doesn’t message you back.
The Story: I must have done something wrong here. (I am a bad person.)
The checking account is running on fumes.
The Story: Life is a struggle. I’ll never feel financially secure. (I am not enough.)
You (I mean, I) don’t sleep well for a few nights.
The Story: What’s wrong with me? Do you think it’s a tumor? (I am broken.)
Your boss doesn’t give you feedback right away on your presentation.
The Story: I must have missed something critical, and she doesn’t know how to tell me I really messed up. (I am bad.)
What do all these stories have in common? The stories that are out to get us will always limit our potential, and they also cause a stressful biochemical response in the body.
The stories that affirm and empower us will always make us feel lighter, more expansive, and full of possibility.
Want to know how to change your story?
I’m so glad you asked!
Step One: Practice Awareness
We’ve got about 70,000 thoughts running through our grey matter each day, most of them below conscious awareness, and worse, about 70% of them are limiting or self-negating. Start paying attention to what’s going on under the hood.
Pro Tip: Begin to notice your emotional state. Reverse engineer the situation to find out what thought(s) or experience(s) triggered the emotional reaction, or physical body sensations.
Step Two: Practice Acceptance
We can’t outrun or hide from our story. We do a great job of numbing, distracting, or otherwise resisting the painful or shadow aspects of our story, but these tactics never work for very long, and they usually escalate into more damaging and increasingly self-negating strategies.
Pro Tip: Once you become good at noticing what you are feeling, you will naturally stop resisting or trying to hide from those feelings when you invite them to the table. I talk a lot about this here in my series on confronting our fear. What we resist will only persist, so make a little space for the discomfort and then watch it dissipate.
Step Three: Change Your BS Stories
The stories that have created the deep-seated patterns in your life sometimes need to be rewritten. The cool thing is, you get to be the author! Pay attention to patterns and knee-jerk reactions that have become habitual for you. Look at your relationships, your finances, your love life, your work life. What can use a rewrite? Become the observer to what’s happening at a meta level in your life, and then start to break the stories down.
Pro Tip 1: Use The Work (Byron Katie) to question your beliefs.
Pro Tip 2: Work with a Master PSYCH-K® facilitator (that’d be me!) to shift those beliefs, change your story, and get the bus heading to where YOU choose.
Curious about Mindset Mastery and how to change your story and your life?
I wrote a post on Mindset Mastery just for you! And reach out for a complimentary call with me to learn more about PSYCH-K®, how it works to change lives, and what you can expect from working with me.
And just in case you think perfectionism helps you be the best version of yourself, read this.
Why is finding balance so challenging sometimes?
Like now, for instance.
We’ve been cooped up for months.
Long nights. Cold days. Hibernating, watching Netflix, drinking and eating more. We’re stir crazy.
And beneath it all, there’s this feeling of new beginnings. The equinox is today, and it is coupled with a rare full moon to boot. We are marking the beginning of a new season.
Metaphorically speaking, we can use this time to launch into creative mode. Springtime is for planting our seeds; what do you want to plant right now? What do you wish to harvest later this year? What are you bringing into your life, into focus, into the flesh?
The equinox is the balance point. No matter where you are on the planet, it signifies the point where the light and the dark are equal match to each other.
The dark is where we go to dream, to plan, and to prepare. Similarly, the light is where we go for action. To make good on those dreams and plans.
In the Northern Hemisphere, where I sit, I’m feeling the urge to shift from resting and planning. I want to spring into action. (Couldn’t resist!)
I’ve got so many passion projects on my winter dream list. When I sit quietly with myself, I feel them stirring inside me. This stirring wants to compound, to become more than a healthy drive that propels me. It wants to take over.
More than anything, I crave balance.
Balance between planning and creating, between thinking and being, between my old habits of pushing hard and my new habits of letting things happen organically.
My little mind says, “Hurry up, we gotta get all things going at once!”
My higher mind says, “Pause. Reset. Breathe. There’s enough time for everything.”
I’m betting you’re a lot like me. You’re a doer, a mover and a shaker, you make stuff happen. And like me, you can flirt with burnout when your passion is too much for your physical body to keep up with.
Balance isn’t always physically possible, though, is it? There are times we must push, and times we must pull, and times we must rest in the middle.
So how do we go-getters go about creating from a balanced perspective?
It all comes down to paying attention to our inner direction, and the signals our body is sending us.
Like the stirring I mentioned above. I know this feeling to be a cocktail of excitement and creativity, with a jigger of not-good-enoughness. The shame of feeling like an imposter, or the fear of being found out that I’m no good or less than has fueled more creative endeavors than I care to admit.
So when this Full Crow Moon sits on the Spring Equinox, and I feel that old familiar pulling and stirring, I slow down. I place my hands over my solar plexus and I take a deep breath.
I remind myself that there is plenty of time. I’ll be able to get done everything that needs to get done, and probably a lot more.
I create internal balance with my breath. With practice, I speak to myself with kindness. What results is self-compassion.
And maybe tonight I’ll howl just a little, shake a tail feather, and welcome the light.
How do YOU find internal balance? Please share. I’d love to hear from you.
Hey, does this ever happen in your world? Got any passion projects you can’t seem to get off the ground?
You know what you want to be doing with your time and energy, you’ve got the skills and know-how to get it done, you’re super excited about it, but somehow it’s still a struggle.
Maybe you’ve got a solid studio practice, but you can’t quite seem to get the right foods into your shopping cart.
Or you’ve got the fitness habit nailed down, but you can’t find your voice at work and you feel out of place.
Or you know there’s a bigger, more exciting role for you to play in your community, but you just can’t muster the courage to put yourself out there.
Why is it that your passion project (at home, at work, in your relationships) feels like wading through thigh-high mud sometimes?
Some of this is just about making new habits, of course. Our brains and bodies like to take the same old path over and over. New paths can feel difficult to forge.
And it’s always good to do an honest assessment and ask yourself if you have too much on your plate, or if you need to delegate some of your duties to other people. A more difficult question is asking if you are running from project to project to avoid your feelings, or avoid participating in certain relationships.
Often, however, I find there’s a mismatch between our desires, our intentions, and our beliefs.
When I hit this wall (and I’m there right now with y’all), I know there’s a deeper level of mud waiting to be explored. And that deeper level of mud is the squishy realm of the subconscious mind.
Here’s what I’ve discovered through my coaching and healing work with others, and in my own life:
If somewhere in that gooey mud there’s a belief that whispers,
“Why bother, I’m no good,” or
“Everyone in my family is sick anyway, so why change my habits,” or
“I don’t want to shine TOO brightly, “ or
“I don’t deserve to feel satisfied and successful,”
then your passion project (or the life you desire) is going to sit on a shelf getting awfully dusty.
And a dusty passion project, or worse, a dusty life, is a huge detriment to you, your loved ones, your community, and to the world at large.
Yep, your dusty passion project, if left untended, is a huge energy leak, and can even make you sick. At the minimum, it will leave you feeling vaguely and persistently unfulfilled, and dare I say even a bit cranky.
So what’s a passionate, driven, capable, heart-centered human like yourself supposed to do?
1. Rewire Your Brain with PSYCH-K.
Our thinking is the biggest obstacle to experiencing everything we want. Yes, you read that right. It’s not about needing mo’ money, mo’ time, or mo’ skills and opportunity.
Our thinking sinks us.
If you want mastery over your thoughts, then PSYCH-K can get you there in a jif.
If you find yourself in negative or limiting thought patterns (broken record, hello!) and you want to break free, book a quick 30-minute conversation with me to see if PSYCH-K is right for you. Did I mention it’s a free call?
2. Learn to Embody Your Intentions.
Wait, whaaatt? Just like we need to retrain our brains to think differently, we need to retrain our bodies to act differently.
We need to break our chemical addiction to living in the past.
Dr. Joe Dispenza writes about this beautifully, but the jist is this: We think the same old thoughts day after day (roughly 70% of them stress-inducing and limiting) and those thoughts produce chemical reactions, also known as emotions. Our bodies become addicted to those stressful chemical cocktails coursing through our bloodstream, and the body says, “I gotta have more cocktail!”
And before you know it, you’re living the same day you lived yesterday, feeling the same things you felt yesterday, and your life, and your passion project is getting dustier and dustier.
If you want to understand this on a visceral level, and experience embodying your intentions in real-time with me, then you’ll want to join me for Inner Sanctuary, my mini online retreat on March 31st. Early bird and donation tickets available.
So how would you think and feel, and what would you do and say, if you were living out your intentions, and acting on your passions? If you were actually living the life you really want?
Let me know what your passion project is! I love hearing from you.
We humans are a curious bunch. Our brains and bodies are neurologically and biologically wired for connection. We need it, we want it, and we can’t live – like, really live – without it.
We’re hungry for it.
At the center of this hunger is the heart. So intrinsic to our ethos, we have nearly countless idioms to describe the human condition: we have open hearts, kind hearts, cold hearts, broken hearts. We are wholehearted, heartless, young at heart, heartsick. We take heart, we have heart, we wear our hearts on our sleeves.
So why does love and connection feel so scary sometimes? And if we’re literally hardwired to connect, why can it be so elusive and seemingly hard to come by?
And why, oh why, do we often put up barriers to the very thing we crave (and dare I say, need) the most?
Because, dear one, if you’re alive and reading this, there’s a nearly 100% chance you’ve had your heart broken. Or someone close to you has betrayed your trust. Or your birth parents either didn’t know how to, or were incapable of, holding you as an infant.
Our hearts are tender and like a garden, require special care. In order to grow the bonds required for human connection, we need to build trusting relationships. And we need to learn to trust ourselves.
Many of us never learned how to create loving boundaries for ourselves. And our gardens get trampled.
Or we learned the hard way that we need to armor up, and keep our defenses activated to keep ourselves safe. 24/7 lock down.
Getting in touch with your heart, listening to its wisdom, and learning to trust yourself with your garden, these are the ways through.
I wish I could say it’s as easy as that, but you’re right, this is hard work. Because we’ve not yet been taught the ways of the heart, how to listen, how to mend the break.
Your heart is quite wise, however, and is a center for neuronal activity. With 40,000 sensors that can feel, remember, and even learn, you could say that your heart has a mind of its own. These neurons are not simply receiving top-down instruction from the brain; they actually send their own messages.
And these messages are not only destined for your own brain and body. Electro magnetic heart frequencies can be measured 10 feet from your core.
Your heart can shine bright like a beacon. Or pull your desires to you like a magnet. Conversely, signals from your heart can warn others to stay away.
The heart can drive a human to do crazy diabolical things or crazy beautiful things. It can be our Achilles heel, or our guiding light. Our heart can be our greatest point of pain, or drive our highest calling to purpose.
So I ask, what are you are hungry for?
Are you craving connection? More opportunity? Wanting to grow your business? Or to know yourself better?
Get quiet. Breathe deeply, settle the body, and plant your feet on the floor. Pay attention to your heart and practice breathing into your heart center. Fill your heart center with a feeling of calm.
Then ask your heart if it has a message for you. It may not come at first, because we don’t always listen well. Keep asking, and in the space between thoughts, between breaths, ask for guidance.
If you struggle with heartache, fear, or doubt, ask the heart what it needs to feel safe. (Then act on it!)
If you’re pushing away that which you crave the most, ask what you can do to change the polarity of your magnet.
Ask for the wisdom to tend your garden, to grow and blossom, to satisfy at last the hunger of the heart.
P.S. If you love the Boss, you’ll find the most exquisite poetry in “Springsteen on Broadway” (Netflix).
We all do, say, and think cringe-worthy stuff from time to time. We’ve done it in our personal lives, we’ve done it at work, we’ve done it the dinner table.
I know I’ve spent A LOT of mental and emotional energy in the past, hashing and rehashing something I said (or didn’t say but wished I had). That is not a pretty process, let me tell you. There’s been a lot of self-judgment happening in the crazy-town between my ears.
But that’s ok, because honestly, this is how we practice self-awareness. We review who we have been, how we have shown up, and the stuff that came through our words and actions.
The shift into self-acceptance happens when we stop beating ourselves up for the silly stuff that came from our brain out through our mouth, or onto the paper. It happens when we cut ourselves a little slack, because we’re only human after all. (Of course it’s also kinda good to apologize when that silly stuff hurts other people.)
Self-acceptance says, “That wasn’t my best moment, I see that now. But I also see what I can do better, and Ima headin’ in that direction, stat.” That’s growth, baby, so go on, brush your shoulders off, and e v o l v e .
Self-acceptance leads to mad self-confidence.
Which is super impactful in our personal lives, but also in our professional lives.
When we can accept the fact that we’re going to screw up from time to time – and that its ok and perfectly natural – we are more willing to put ourselves out there, to take initiative, and to offer up our juicy creative ideas. We feel we can take more risks, but also seize greater opportunities.
This is a win for the individual, but also for the organization and for society at large. We all stand to benefit from the amazing creative ideas brewing inside each and every one of us.
It’s such a beautiful and humbling thing to witness people transform self-judgment into self-acceptance literally before your eyes.
One of my star clients (OK, they’re all super stars!) who went to the Flourish Gym with particular gusto, learned to shed her insecure skin. She really grew into her potential through the healing we accomplished together, plus her dedicated practices of awareness and acceptance.
With grace and ease, she simply stepped into new roles at work. She’s particularly good at what she does, but without the insecurity and judgment holding her back, she began to really shine. Which led to a promotion and pay raise without her asking for it.
How freakin’ cool is that? To get paid to evolve?
Titles and raises are awesome, but feeling seen and heard, and being appreciated for your growth and for the effort and creativity you contribute is even more meaningful.
Kudos to you, lady! You inspire me! 😉
Wanna shed your skin and step into your greatness? Join us for Inner Sanctuary, my monthly online mini retreat series designed to foster increased self-awareness and self-acceptance.
Wanna get to your greatness even faster? Talk to me about the Flourish Personal Development Gym and joining the Tools to Thrive By program.
Is hope possible?
2018 saw massive upheaval.
We stood on shifting sands.
We burned alive, trying to escape.
The survivors breathed in and choked on our remains.
The monstrous, racist head of nationalism rose up the world over.
And in this precious moment, hundreds of thousands face starvation in Yemen.
I ask myself what it means to be hopeful when year over year I find my heart aching.
Uncertainty certainly appears to be the new normal.
We swim in it, raise babies in it. Try our best to mold ourselves into its always shifting, unshaped form.
Unfortunately it’s our psyches – individual and collective – which pay the toll for all of this volatility. The delicate inner workings of our very essence are on the line, and on the hook.
How do we – and we must – continue to show up, continue to do our work, continue to reach, to grow, and to build? ___Relationships, trust, self.
All of it needing tending. All of it asking softly (and sometimes not) for a little of our precious attention. And often demanding action on our part.
I find a bit of solace in these words by Rebecca Solnit on hope:
Hope locates itself in the premises that we don’t know what will happen and that in the spaciousness of uncertainty is room to act. When you recognize uncertainty, you recognize that you may be able to influence the outcomes — you alone or you in concert with a few dozen or several million others.
Hope is an embrace of the unknown and the unknowable, an alternative to the certainty of both optimists and pessimists. Optimists think it will all be fine without our involvement; pessimists take the opposite position; both excuse themselves from acting.
It’s the belief that what we do matters even though how and when it may matter, who and what it may impact, are not things we can know beforehand. We may not, in fact, know them afterward either, but they matter all the same, and history is full of people whose influence was most powerful after they were gone.
Yes, it’s been a fiery year. It hasn’t necessarily been comfortable or easy. It hasn’t always been difficult, either.
It’s helpful for me to remember that good comes through flames, not only destruction. The inferno purifies. The phoenix rises. Even the giant Sequoia needs a flame to seed new life.
And so here we are, still standing. And with that comes the opportunity to seed our lives anew. Each new day, new week, new month, new year.
As this year closes, I ask myself: What do I stand for? What action, no matter how seemingly insignificant, can I muster the courage to take today? How can I be a voice or an agent for love, for charity, for grace? What am I contributing to the field?
Dear ones, we are entering the final year of this decade. By all accounts, it appears uncertainty and volatility will continue.
(Certainty, in fact, is a perception rather than a de facto state of existence.)
Ahead of us lies the formless, inky blackness of that which is not yet written.
My hope is that you will find the resilience, the fortitude, and the will to be a beacon of stability and a purveyor of possibility as our ship continues on its choppy course. Now more than ever, your light, the indefatigable core of your being, is needed.
So rise up! Shine brightly into the inky blackness. No matter how rough the ride ahead may be.
Love with all you have. Love as though your life depends on it.
And here’s my 2019 Trial by Fire Resilience Kit (to be used liberally!):
Practice a short Metta (lovingkindness) meditation each day. (Insight Timer is great for this.)
Practice gratitude. Making note of just three things for which you can be grateful each morning or evening will shift your attention to what is good and affirming in your life.
Do one nice thing for another person each day, even if all you have to offer is a smile.
Nourish your relationships.
Take good, loving care of the needs of your inner world.
Use adaptogenic herbs like ginseng, rhodiola, eleuthero, schisandra, and holy basil to support your system during times of stress, change, or uncertainty.
Go for a walk in the forest.
I go dark in December. (My shadows come out to play.)
Even though true winter arrives in a few weeks, it feels like we’re there already. Cold, long nights make for easier sleep and set the stage for looking inward.
I used to go dark this time every year. I would sink into my seasonally induced slump. The holidays filled me with dread. I knew I would never live up to the expectations that our culture and society put on me.
I wouldn’t be the perfect daughter. I couldn’t spend the holidays with all the disparate factions of my fractured family, so I generally chose to be alone. Holed up, waiting ‘til the days became noticeably longer.
I’ve done a lot of work to get through the holiday blues. Some of it based in self-awareness, a lot of it in self-acceptance, and learning how to show myself mercy when there isn’t enough sunlight to keep my tank full.
Mindset Mastery work has allowed me to befriend the parts of me that want to hide during this season. And it has helped me to name, accept, and shift my beliefs around the myriad subterranean expectations December always brings. This means I no longer have to succumb to social anxiety, or feel guilty for not being able to please others.
When I used to be wracked with anxiety and depression, I now find myself in a state of curiosity and sweet anticipation for the opportunity to connect and share joy with those I love. However, I still spend a lot of time alone, because my inner world speaks so strongly to me in December.
For those of us in the Northern Hemisphere, this season calls for something more from us. It beckons all of us to go within and examine our lives.
Who have we been this last year?
Did we accomplish what we wanted?
Did we have the experience that we wanted?
This is the best time of year to do shadow work, or to talk to our shadow – those darker parts of ourselves. It’s natural to shy away from our shadow because we don’t always like what we see. But it’s necessary to look at our dark places from time to time, to welcome those aspects of our personalities to the table, to share a meal, and to receive what they have to say.
I go dark in December. No longer because I am depressed, but because my shadow parts need to be witnessed. And when I resist them, they tend to make my life a lot less comfortable. (My ignored shadows show up as body pain, sleep disruption, moodiness, anxiety, and general discontent.)
My holiday wish for you is that you’ll spend your December in celebration with those you love. I hope you’ll focus more on your presence than on your presents. And I hope you’ll make a few moments to listen to what your shadow has to say.
I hope you’ll go dark, too.
Reach out! I’d love to hear what December brings to you!
What is Mindset Mastery, you ask?
Mastery is all about awareness, alignment, and action.
Step 1 is always awareness.
We have to become aware of our thought patterns, because they create emotional responses, which lead directly to our actions and what we perceive to be happening in the world around us.
We achieve awareness through meditation, through inquiry or journaling, and through conversation with someone skilled at asking juicy questions. Some people get Ahas while in nature, or exercising. Some people get Ahas through their dreams. It doesn’t matter how self-awareness comes to you, only that you pursue it.
Step 2 is alignment.
There are two aspects of alignment. One is the alignment of our conscious thinking and our subconscious thinking, or alignment of our forebrain (higher cognition) and our lower brain (instinctual programming).
When we consciously know that we are worthy of respect in our relationships, but somewhere along the way we internalized the opposite programming, the conscious and subconscious minds are out of alignment. When this happens, you find yourself in disrespectful, or hurtful relationships, for instance. You’ll find yourself in self-sabotage, and out of personal integrity.
The other aspect of alignment is when our thoughts, words, and actions are aligned with our values. This is personal integrity. This fundamentally hinges on conscious and subconscious alignment, but you can think of it as alignment in action.
Step 3 is action.
Once awareness is achieved (and this is a process of forever going deeper within ourselves), and alignment is realized, we are able to take inspired action. We begin to live by our values. We self-actualize; we begin to create the life we know is possible for us.
In the above example, we outgrow those stuck relationships that were grounded in outmoded programming. We evolve. We heal. We find more peace and happiness in our lives.
We inspect our thought processes, we challenge the old programming, we reprogram, we grow.
We close the gap between who we are being now and who we want to be, and how we are perceived on the outside vs. how we feel on the inside.
So how do we achieve this alignment, which leads to inspired action?
The fastest, most comprehensive mindset tool I have experienced to create alignment between your conscious and subconscious minds is PSYCH-K. Once you become aware that you would like something different in your life, in a matter of just a few minutes, you can create a shift that leads to real change.
Most of the people I have worked with can actually feel this shift in their body after completing a PSYCH-K balance. It is potent and powerful, and the changes I have witnessed in other people’s lives (and my own, thank you very much) are nothing short of astounding.
Getting started is simple. Just take an honest inventory of your current situation and ask: What would I rather be experiencing right now?
Whether you want to experience making more healthful decisions (fewer donuts, or fewer codependent relationships, for example), or the ability to consistently speak up for yourself or ask for what you want, or improved connection with others, PSYCH-K can help.
If you are curious and would like to know more about PSYCH-K, please check out this video by Rob Williams, the founder of PSYCH-K. Bruce Lipton also writes about it beautifully in his book, The Biology of Belief.
Anné M. Klint is a certified PSYCH-K® Master Facilitator. As a gift to her community, she is offering Mini Mindset Mastery Sessions for Magical Holidays. As someone who has struggled emotionally and physically with the holiday season, PSYCH-K has made the holidays actually tolerable, and dare I say fun!
Don’t let the holidays derail your personal goals for health, happiness, and connection. Set up a Mini Sesh today and transform an old crappy pattern of yours into a shiny, new one. These deeply discounted sessions are in high demand and short supply. And they’ll be gone soon. So jump on it!
Like so many others who come to meditation, I was curious about the health benefits, and seeking respite from an overactive mind. I remember crying to a friend that it was only during my meditation period that I could feel any sense of peace or calm in my life. It was a dark period of my healing journey/spiritual awakening.
At the time I began a daily meditation practice in earnest, my mind was a pretty unfriendly place. Rumination and negative self-talk had reached all new levels of what felt like depravity. Frankly, I was desperate for relief because it felt like my world was closing in on me.
Meditation in those days was like grasping: frantically feeling around in the dark for a life preserver as the ship was going down.
It wasn’t necessarily pretty, but I stuck with it and slowly began to train my mind. I didn’t fully understand it then, but I was training my body, too. My body had become addicted to the chemical cocktail of stress hormones that were produced by so many negative subconscious beliefs and thought processes that had heretofore dictated my life.
It was too subtle to notice at first, but something else happened as I was training my body and mind with meditation. The hours of my day spent outside of meditation started to feel lighter and easier.
I started the practice for the respite from pain, and now I continue for the clarity, creativity, and insight I receive outside the practice. Renowned meditation teacher, Craig Hamilton, tells us that the purpose of meditation is actually to be more awake when we’re off the cushion. He also taught me that the meditation never really stops.
There are many ways to meditate, and no one “right” way will suit everyone – at least not in the beginning. I work with my clients to find what suits their temperament and lifestyle, so they may better sustain a daily practice. Meditation is like going to the mental gym. Once a month won’t make much difference on the scale or in the mirror.
One thing I am adamant about is when my clients meditate. Any time of day will work for stress relief. However, if you want to remake your life and change your subconscious programming, you will save yourself a lot of time by making a habit of meditating first thing in the morning. An alternative would be an evening practice, just before you fall asleep at night.
This has everything to do with your brain waves and how they fluctuate throughout the day. Most of us are in Beta or High Beta all day long. However, when we fall asleep, we transit through Alpha to (hopefully) stay mostly in Theta and Delta while we sleep. Theta is the watery realm of the subconscious mind. And we can’t change our limiting subconscious programming without accessing Theta.
First thing in the morning, we are closest to Theta. If you start meditation while still in Alpha (before your brain cranks up to Beta) you’ll more likely be able to drop back in to Theta, and that’s how you reprogram all the faulty systems that tell you you’re not good enough, or that trigger anxiety or dis-ease, or that cause self-sabotage.
So basically it’s this simple: If you want to see change in your life, meditate first thing in the morning. Every morning.
If you need help landing on a practice that will work for you, reach out or leave a comment below. It’s what I’m here for.